It is easier than ever before to figure out the steps you need to change jobs or build a business.

Just type into Google, “how to write a resume” or “how to start a business” or “how to talk to your boss,” and you’ll immediately find lots of decent advice.

When most people get stuck pursuing a career change, it’s usually not because they can’t figure out which steps to take.

Instead, most people get stuck on the path to careers they love because they lack the habits or skills they need to be successful.

Let’s say, for example, that you dream of teaching workshops about conflict resolution to nonprofit organizations. Your first steps toward making this vision a reality might be to interview potential clients or to hold one workshop and see who shows up. However, you keep putting your idea on the backburner, attending to tasks that seem more urgent.

In this case, there might be many new habits or skills you need to develop to get unstuck and pursue your dream. If you’re procrastinating due to a lack of confidence, you’ll need to learn how to let go of the story that says your idea isn’t worth it and take action despite your fear. If you’re super busy and don’t seem to have time, you’ll need to learn how to consciously choose priorities, focus your attention on your long-term goals, and say no to other obligations. If the how-to’s are tripping you up, you might need to learn how to plan a workshop or spread the word.

Wisdom arises from being able to access both inner and outer guidance.

Likewise, the abilities you need to get clear and confident about your next level calling can be divided into two groups— Inner Foundation and Outer Action. Like reading and writing and riding a bike, we are not born knowing how to do most of these things, or they’re taught out of us at a young age.

Inner Foundation includes the ability to—

  • Access and trust your inner wisdom
  • Recover from and prevent burnout
  • Quiet the voice of your inner Judge
  • Respond to yourself with self-compassion
  • Let go of limiting beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back
  • Experience greater joy, even when circumstances are hard
  • Bring your attention to the present moment
  • Keep moving forward, even when you feel scared, don’t know what to do, or feel pulled in a direction you don’t really want to go in
  • Embody your whole, authentic self
  • Understand what you truly want and need
  • Get grounded and centered, even in the midst of conflict or chaos
  • Figure out your path forward, rather than going back and forth or in circles
  • Soothe your inner Voice of Doubt, the part that says “Yeah, but” and “What if?”
  • Make informed decisions you feel good about
  • Cultivate patience
  • Face your fear and keep moving forward
  • Enjoy the journey while working towards outcomes that matter

Outer Action includes knowing how to—

  • Try out your ideas in a way that uncovers the information you need
  • Hold effective informational interviews
  • Expand your network
  • Identify what your ideal clients or employers truly need and want
  • Make clear and effective requests
  • Deal with doubters, naysayers, and loved ones who don’t (yet) support you
  • Have courageous conversations with bosses and colleagues
  • Craft a message that inspires potential clients and employers to hire you

I invite you to take a moment to reflect on the competencies that you need to develop in order to get clear and confident about your path forward.

Grab a pencil and a pen, and get comfortable. Then, write down what comes up for you in response to the following questions—

  • If I could wave a magic wand and grant you any three abilities, strengths, or skills, which are all within the realm of human possibility, what would make the biggest difference in your life?
  • What is one baby step you can take today in the direction of developing these new skills?

Commit to taking one small step, and if you can’t do it today, schedule it into your calendar.

With enough desire, effort, and time, you can become masterful at each and every one of these abilities, and they will help you rise to each new challenge you face, long into the future. By focusing on changing one habit, you can create change that ripples out in ways you could not have predicted.

I’d love to hear from you!

What new skill do you want to focus on?

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