A client of mine left her job in a community mental health agency to go into full-time private practice.

While she’d wanted to make this move for a long time, in the month after she leaving her job, she felt a surprising sense of emptiness.

Coping with change—even the changes we desire and work for—can be tougher than expected.

When we let go of something that does not serve us, we create space that was not previously there.  This can be physical space, or it can be additional time, energy, or mental space.  Because we are not used to this space, we can experience it as emptiness, and this can initially feel uncomfortable.

We often anticipate feeling freedom and ease when we let go of things that we do not want, and feelings of emptiness and disorientation, while normal, can take us by surprise.

These feelings are neither “bad” nor “good.”  Disorientation may simply be a natural part of your process of creating space and unfolding into who you truly are.

Similarly, I have a good friend who has felt disconnected from her husband, but until recently, she had chosen to avoid talking to him about how she’s feeling for fear of what she might discover.  Steering clear of the issue felt safer than delving into it.

About a month ago, she summoned the courage to ask herself what she really wanted from her relationship.  Soon after, she shared with me that she was feeling more confused than ever about who she is, what she truly wants, what matters to her, and how to get there.

I shared with her that a heroine’s journey is about sitting with these big questions and allowing oneself to be guided by them.

The journey of getting to a more true and honest place inside oneself is as much about sitting with the not knowing as it is about finding a tidy answer. It takes real courage to trust the not knowing as a doorway to the life you desire.

When you stop avoiding what you feel, you may expose yourself to your own fear and discomfort. These are natural and normal responses when you are working to release old strategies that kept you safe.   While this is not necessarily a fun thing, it is also not a bad thing.  Disorientation is simply part of learning how to cope with change, and when you move through the fogginess, the clarity that you come to on the other side can be stunning.

The same stories keep repeating themselves until you uncover and transform them.

When you are coping with change, discomfort can become a great opportunity to learn who you are.

Now is the perfect time to explore what is coming up for you. When approached with compassion, the emptiness and disorientation of change can provide key insights into who you are and what you want. Accessing these insights not only restores your balance, but also strengthens your commitment to living the life you want, clarifies your purpose as a courageous leader, and brings harmony to your relationships.

Each change brings a new perspective, and it can be unnerving to adjust to a new view.  Playing at your edge and dancing with the energy of newness and creation can bring a sense of not knowing quite what is coming next.  This can feel scary.  But, it is not bad.  When we embrace the simple fact that allowing ourselves to be at the edge of change can feel disorienting, we gain the freedom to engage in our lives with curiosity.

If this brings up resistance in you, that is normal and okay.  The work of change isn’t necessarily easy, and you need to make it your own.  Shape what I share with you in a way that makes the most sense to you. No matter how small it may seem, each step you take on your journey will bring you closer to the life you desire. Coping with change is the perfect time to use fear and discomfort as guides—these natural responses to change are great teachers if approached with an open mind.

If you’re ready to embrace the change you desire and become a more courageous leader at work and in life, click here to sign up for a free Discovery Session. Together we’ll get clear on your next steps to creating a life of joy and impact.


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