I aspire to be like Seth Godin. At fifty-seven years, he’s written over twenty books, and thousands follow his daily blog, which never seizes to be witty and fresh. A master writer.

Having a role model is different from trying to be someone you’re not. The book I’m called to write is different than any of Seth’s. So are the blog posts.

Choosing a role model is about holding up an image of what is possible. Seeing it in the flesh. Raising your head to your insidious inner critic who asks— who do you think you are? Looking him straight in the eyes, and saying— I can be whomever I damn well please.

Stretch goals are important. Trying to do something that you never thought possible is important. And, so is having a role model, someone who already embodies your vision for yourself.

If you haven’t thought about your role models since you were a child, I invite you to pause for a moment and ask yourself the following questions:

  • When I envision the next horizon of my life, what do I see myself doing differently than I’m doing right now?
  • What abilities, skills, strengths, or traits does my future self have that I do not yet have?
  • Who embodies these abilities or traits? This may be someone close to you or someone you’ve never met.
  • Finally, ask yourself, what would I have to do to develop these abilities or traits?

Parker Palmer, another prolific author and founder of the Center for Courage & Renewal, writes about the “tragic gap,” the space between where you are right now and where you want to be. Living in the tragic gap can be uncomfortable, and it can get painful when your inner judge tells you that you “should” already be somewhere you’re not.

Stop chastising yourself for not being there yet. Instead, offer yourself equal parts acceptance of where you are right now and permission to dream about where you most want to be. Choose a role model—someone who, just like you, had to learn their craft before they developed mastery.

I invite you to check out our professional coaching programs and then to apply for a discovery session when you’re ready to talk. All the best to you!

So, who is your role model? Who embodies the abilities and strengths you will need to reach your next level calling? Please share below. I’d love to hear from you!


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