To act in solidarity, we must honor our capacity.

If you’re like many of my clients, I imagine that you have a tendency to deplete yourself responding to the heartbreaking enormity of our unmet collective needs and yet still not feel like you’re doing enough.

Deep down, I imagine you know that although dominant culture worships the singular superhero, movements change the world, not sole actors. You truly don’t aspire to be a savior. Still, you struggle to figure out how you’re supposed to effectively show up for social change when your capacity is so limited and the problems so vast.

Now, I’m not going to pretend that one simple exercise will answer this question. I’m writing an entire book to help you discern how to show up in these dire circumstances.

Rather, my intent is to remind you that to do solidarity well—to fulfill our mutual responsibility to ourselves and the collective—we must learn to honor our capacity.

As Prentiss Hemphill writes, “boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”

If we don’t honor our boundaries and our capacity, then we shift out of a stance of solidarity and into a stance of servitude and saviordom.

Our capacity for solidarity-ing has a lot to do with how much time we have capacity to dedicate. I’ll help you assess how much time you have in Chapter 11. For now, I invite you to place on the backburner of your mind the question of capacity. That might sound like—What is my capacity now? Or, What would the part of me who honors my capacity do right now? Or, What boundaries do I need now?

You do not need to come up with perfect answers right now. If you stay curious and keep showing up for yourself, insights will emerge.

And, if you’re looking for support to help you discern how to keep showing up without burning out, I invite you to check out my Mentorship for Changemakers.


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