A story has taken off like wildfire, peddled by many a self-help teacher and career coach.

This story asserts that everyone has one true purpose or passion or calling and that to create a happy and purposeful life, we must figure out what our purpose is and devote our lives to it.[1]

Granted, I don’t know why we’re here on this beautiful rock spinning through space, and it’s entirely possible that each of us comes into this world with tasks we’re meant to fulfill.

However, far too often, new clients come to me thinking there’s something wrong with them because they haven’t found their one true purpose yet. Their attachment to finding the right answer has kept them needlessly stuck, searching for perfection rather than getting curious about the possibilities in front of them.

The truth is, not everyone feels passion in the same way, and many people don’t have one primary passion for their entire lives.

Moreover, the notion that we should have one biggest passion is in lockstep with supremacy culture, which teaches that one way is best.

If you’re worried you’ll never find your true purpose, I invite you to try on a new story instead:

You are not on this planet to accomplish one goal. You are here to love and to learn.

Emilie Wapnick, founder of the online community Puttylike.com, coined the term multipotentialite to describe people with multiple interests and creative pursuits.

I believe that we all have multi-potentiality.

For most of us, there is no perfect job or just-right choice. Instead, there are many paths we might learn to love. No matter how good your work-life may be, there will invariably be aspects you don’t love. But when we let go of seeking perfection, open our minds to what is possible, and are patient with falling in love, we often end up pleasantly surprised.

As Rumi wrote, there are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the earth.

So rather than asking—What is your one big passion or purpose in life?—I invite you to ask—What is calling you now?

[1] As you’ll recall from the beginning of the book, I define calling as a longing to take on a new challenge that meets a need, usually one that is greater than yourself. The Oxford Dictionary defines purpose as the reason for which something is done or created, or for which one exists. It defines passion as an intense desire or enthusiasm for something.

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