After teaching a free class on intuition last week, a participant wrote me the following question—

How do we explain our actions to others when we are following our intuition? In my personal life, I simply follow my intuition. But I work in a technical field where I often need approval from my work team or bosses to move forward with an idea. My colleagues want tangible reasons for why I do what I do.

Here’s what I wrote back—

The sometimes frustrating reality is that a lot of the time, when we’re working on a team, people will not buy in if we say, “My gut says this is right.” Some people will trust that. But many others won’t.

Instead, we need to do what Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements, calls controlled folly. 

Controlled Folly

Controlled folly is the art of speaking in the way that others will be able to heart while staying aware of our own truth. How you explain your intuitions to yourself will be different than how you explain them to a colleague.

In other words, to explain something to a colleague in a way that helps them get on board, you need to pay attention to what’s important to them. 

The next time you need to explain why you want to do something, ask yourself— How can I present this in a way that will make sense to them? Then, listen to how your intuition responds.

You may need to work to find statistics or outside arguments to move in a certain direction. Although it can feel annoying to do this work, keep in mind that getting this outside view can also help your intuition make better decisions. If you’re mindful of putting in an appropriate amount of energy to this process, it’s usually not wasted time.

Learning the art of controlled folly can take energy. But after a while, it can feel like play. Wishing you fun and a lighthearted approach to all of this!

Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.

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