Say yes to what serves you

and no to what doesn’t.

The book for people exhausted by working hard for social change while neglecting their own needs.

Most people believe that social change requires self-sacrifice, but it doesn’t have to.

 

After ten-plus years of coaching changemakers, here’s what I want to whisper to you:

 

The same small practices that feed our joy *also* increase our impact.

 
There are tiny choices that make us far more capable of showing up—for ourselves and others—in ways that make us proud.
 
In my book, Beyond Boundaries: The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values, I’ll teach you a practice to help you pivot from feeling overwhelmed and exhausted to nourished and energized, while strengthening your ability to show up effectively—in less than five minutes.
 
It’s Free.

You work hard to make a difference.

 
If you’re like most of my clients, you’ve done a lot of work on yourself to set better boundaries.
 
And yet still you struggle.
 
Over the years, I’ve discovered a missing link that allows burned-out changemakers to take a moment for themselves, shift perspectives, and make choices they feel great about.
 
This practice creates the necessary pivot point from feeling exhausted and overwhelmed by all your commitments to creating a life that honors your needs and your values. With practice, it takes less than five minutes.
 
In my book, I share with you this missing link.
 
We burn out because our needs are chronically undermet. We feel alive when we have the clarity and commitment to say yes to what we need and no to what no longer serves us.
 
I’m excited to teach you how to build a habit of honoring your needs.

Katherine helped me ignite a tiny spark of hope. And this time it was not the naive hope of an idealist girl. It was a hard-earned, realistic hope. I emerged from a dark tunnel of limitations into a wide-open space of possibilities.
 
Katherine’s process of asking deep, penetrating questions with unconditional positive regard and then using the answers to craft practical action steps did more in six months than years of therapy had before.
 
Ylfa Perry – Physician

Get Beyond Boundaries:
The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values

+ All Five Bonuses.

You’ll receive the Beyond Burnout digital book, a PDF file for your e-reader or tablet, and all of the included bonuses.

(The book and bonuses are free through the end of March.
After that, we’ll likely charge a little bit.)

In your digital copy of Beyond Boundaries: The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values, you’ll learn principles and practices to help you…

  • Shift from reactivity and resentment to being able to respond to others with true compassion.
  • Stop dismissing and ignoring the parts of yourself who are struggling, which only makes them feel worse.
  • Shift out of savior mentality and into a place of true solidarity—from which you can love yourself and others simultaneously.
  • Let go of trying to make the perfect choice.
  • Embody a sense of play and openness in experimenting with new paths forward.

Beyond Boundaries: The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values is free.

As soon as you sign up, the Internet fairies will deliver your digital copy of Beyond Boundaries to your inbox so you can immediately start…
 
…shifting from being overwhelmed by all your responsibilities to gaining the clarity and confidence to honor your boundaries…
 
…and cultivate a reliable practice of pausing, turning toward yourself with love and kindness, listening to your body’s messages, discerning what you need and what your situation needs, and confidently choosing your next steps.

When you sign up for the book,
you’ll also receive these bonuses for free…

One: Guided Audio Recording of the Orientation Practice so you can practice without having the book at hand.

In Beyond Boundaries, I walk you step-by-step through a practice I call the Orientation Practice. Sometimes, it’s far easier when someone else guides us. You can listen to this recording whenever you’re craving a bit more support.

Two: The Orientation Practice Guidesheet

Sometimes, visual cues help us orient. This worksheet offers a visual reminder of each part of the practice and a space to write down your responses. You can print it out, keep it where you’ll see it, and receive support to get oriented whenever you need it.

Three: Three-Dimensions Centering Practice Audio Recording

Sometimes, we need more than a few more minutes to get centered. When you want additional guidance to settle your nervous system, reconnect with your inner resources, and embody a sense of confidence, this seven-minute guided recording will be there.

Four: The Priority Needs Wheel

Beyond Boundaries is all about learning to honor your needs. The Priority Needs Wheel is a fun, quick assessment of your current needs, especially helpful for identifying and centering your priorities in the next phase of your life.

Five: Written Answers to Your Questions

You will likely have questions while reading the book, and I want to answer them.
 
To do this, once you sign up, you’ll receive a special course email through which to ask me any and all questions. While I may not be able to answer every question, once a month I sit with readers’ questions for at least two hours, answer at least one question that feels relevant to all readers, and send a Q&A response (with names removed for confidentiality) to all readers.
 
That way (as long as people ask questions), you are in an ongoing dialogue with me about the book and receive continued support.

Of course, you can opt out of receiving these emails at any time. And I commit to doing this for at least one year following your book purchase.

I’ve gotten much better at not taking on everything myself and trusting other people to do things that I used to feel obligated to do.
 
Instead of being driven by guilt, I’m now guided by knowing my gifts and seeing where they’re most needed. I’m able to make choices that serve me and the world more, and I feel more confident about my decisions.
 
Abby – Gender-Based Violence Systems Change Advocate

Get Beyond Boundaries:
The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values

+ All Five Bonuses.

  1. The Orientation Practice guided audio recording.
  2. The Orientation Practice Worksheet.
  3. Three-Dimensions Centering Practice recording.
  4. The Priority Needs Wheel.
  5. Written Answers to Your Questions.

(The book and bonuses are free through the end of March.
After that, we’ll likely charge a little bit.)

When you sign up, you’ll also receive my Saturday Love Letter to Changemakers—
free morsels of coaching for your heart, mind, and body.

I promise not to spam you or share your email with anyone.
You can unsubscribe at any time.

You’ve already done so much work on
yourself to set better boundaries.
How is my approach any different?

Like many words in English, the word boundary is rooted in separation and supremacy culture. It connotes a border, a dividing line between us and them.
 
Granted, boundaries (between work and play, me and you) can be a helpful starting point when we’ve been overgiving or overdoing.
 
Boundaries can make good neighbors, help us assert clear limits, and stop expending energy on what is not ours.
 
But rigid, predefined boundaries are not always the most helpful tool for nimbly navigating the complexities of life under late-stage capitalism and collapse.
 
And while boundaries help us say no, they offer insufficient guidance for saying a wholehearted yes! to what we long for.
 
To create lives that honor our values, lives of solidarity and aliveness, lives that rise to the perplexing challenges of life in these times, we need more than boundaries.
 
Whereas boundary is a noun, we need a verb—a skill set for saying no to what no longer serves us, proclaiming yes to what we long for, and honoring our personal and collective needs.
 
I call this skill set radical discernment—the skill of making choices that honor our personal and collective needs.
 
And it all starts with the practice I teach you in Beyond Boundaries: The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values.

Thanks for taking the time to read this far!

I’ve been mentoring people committed to social change—folks in the nonprofit, ethical enterprise, policymaking, and social justice realms—since 2013.

 

Here are a few of the organizations my clients have worked at:

  • The Interaction Institute for Social Change
  • Embrace Race
  • GLSEN
  • SEIU
  • The United Way
  • NYS Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence
  • Girls Inc.
  • Represent Us
  • The Disability Justice Project
  • The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
  • And many more.

Katherine Golub (she/her), PCC, MBA.

Over thousands of hours of helping my clients get clear about what’s next, cultivate self-confidence, align their lives with their values, make a bigger impact, and find joy in the long haul, I’ve discovered this:

 

The small practices that help us feel more alive also help us become more effective.

 

Together, these practices help us cultivate radical discernment—the skill of perceiving what honors our personal and collective needs and dedicating our time and energy in ways that have a greater chance of honoring our needs.

 

In Beyond Boundaries, I teach one of these practices—the Orientation Practice.

 

The Orientation Practice will help you increase your ability to pause, turn toward yourself with love and kindness, listen to what your body is telling you, discern what you need and what your situation needs, and choose next steps that move you toward meeting your personal and collective needs.

 

I’ve found that orienting yourself in this way is the most important shift we can make to emerge from burnout and consistently create lives of aliveness and contribution.

 

It brings me great delight to share these teachings with you.

After years of feeling creatively stagnant, it’s like the dams have opened and my creative energy is flowing freely and abundantly.
 
Elena Mamatas – Somatic Experiencing Practitioner

Frequently Asked Questions

I’ve already done so much work on myself to set better boundaries. How is your approach any different?
Like many words in English, the word boundary is rooted in separation and supremacy culture. It connotes a border, a dividing line between us and them.
 
Granted, boundaries (between work and play, me and you) can be a helpful starting point when we’ve been overgiving or overdoing.
 
Boundaries can make good neighbors, help us assert clear limits, and stop expending energy on what is not ours.
 
But rigid, predefined boundaries are not always the most helpful tool for nimbly navigating the complexities of life under late-stage capitalism and collapse.
 
And while boundaries help us say no, they offer insufficient guidance for saying a wholehearted yes! to what we long for.
 
To create lives that honor our values, lives of solidarity and aliveness, lives that rise to the perplexing challenges of life in these times, we need more than boundaries.
 
Whereas boundary is a noun, we need a verb—a skill set for saying no to what no longer serves us, proclaiming yes to what we long for, and honoring our personal and collective needs.
 
I call this skill set radical discernment—the skill of perceiving and choosing that which honors our needs.
 
And it all starts with the practice I teach you in Beyond Boundaries: The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values.
How long do I have access to the book and bonuses?

They are yours forever. As soon as you sign up, the book and bonuses will arrive in your inbox. You can download them for safekeeping and access them long into the future.

I’m having technical trouble signing up.

No problem. We can help. Email info@callingsandcourage.com, and we’ll get you all set up.

I’m just not sure.

Well, if you were my coaching client, I’d encourage you to do the following: 

 

  • Check in with your body: In your mind’s eye, I invite you to imagine participating in the course. How does the idea feel in your body—good and exciting? Good but scary/exhilarating? Those are good signs.
  • Explore the cost: With nearly every choice, we must let go of something to say yes to another. Ask yourself: What is the cost of doing the course? What is the cost of not doing the course? Which is greater?
  • Turn toward your Voice of Doubt with love and kindness. Our Voice of Doubt is the part that says Yeah, but… and What if… when we get closer to making a decision. Do your best to turn toward your Voice of Doubt with love and kindness and ask what it needs. Then, get curious: How might you move forward in a way that meets your many needs?
  • Reflect: What are your intentions for the next phase of your life? Does doing the course feel well aligned with your intentions, or not? What does your inner knowing say?

If your inner knowing says no or maybe, honor that.

And if your inner knowing says yes, I invite you to purchase the book. I would be thrilled to share it with you.

Get Beyond Boundaries:
The Key to Making Choices that Honor Your Needs Without Betraying Your Values

+ All Five Bonuses.

  1. The Orientation Practice guided audio recording.
  2. The Orientation Practice Worksheet.
  3. Three-Dimensions Centering Practice recording.
  4. The Priority Needs Wheel.
  5. Written Answers to Your Questions.

When you sign up, you’ll also receive my Saturday Love Letter to Changemakers—
free morsels of coaching for your heart, mind, and body.

I promise not to spam you or share your email with anyone.
You can unsubscribe at any time.

Your time is precious.

 

If you think maybe one of my programs is what you need but you’re not quite sure, please ask. I don’t want an unasked question or unexpressed concern to keep you from getting clear.

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